I am a pantyhose fetish (stockings) fetish.
Believe me, fetishism is not our own fault at all. Most of it is that we did not receive correct guidance in our childhood. The causes are very complicated, including the influence of mother, environment and familiar people around. Our country has always neglected sex education, and parents may have neglected our understanding of sex in the process of growing up.
Fetish is just a variation of sexual behavior. It is fundamentally difficult to eliminate fetish, so it is better to look at it from another angle.
There is an important prerequisite for fetishism to be treated: it has a negative effect on one’s physical and mental health and hinders normal interpersonal communication and daily life.
So, you need to face up to the fact of fetishism. Does it bring you happiness or only pain?
If only pain is left, then you need to get help from a psychologist.
If you can feel happy from it, just treat it as a special hobby of yourself, provided that you don’t harm others.
Of course, you can’t choose unhealthy methods, such as picking up or stealing clothes that others have used. Now that the Internet is so developed, it is completely possible to shop online.
Finally, share your thoughts with your girlfriend or other trustworthy people and tell them that this is your personal hobby, but it will not have a bad influence on you. I believe many people can understand it.
It is not necessary to tell others about this matter, it is actually your personal privacy, but if you live with someone, you still need to communicate and understand.
I have been dating my girlfriend for four years before telling her about my fetish. She already understands me completely. She actually hopes that I can tell her earlier. In fact, the pressure mainly comes from yourself. This era is much more open than before. Don’t add too much trouble to yourself. Everyone has problems. Do more things that can improve and enrich yourself and make yourself happy.